Friday, April 1, 2011
Ramblings again:
A lyric from a song keeps pounding my head today: I didn't do it But if I'd done it How could you tell me that I was wrong? That's from Chicago and it's about a bunch girls killing their husbands/boyfriends/lovers. BUT. Have that song in your head while you're perusing your favorite blogs: mama birth, etc, then you get a completely different mindset. I didn't have a c-section. But if I'd had one, how could you tell me that I was wrong?? Some women are scared to have a vaginal birth. Well. I'm scared to have a c-section. Scared of the process. Scared of having my options taken away. Scared of having surgery. I don't like being a patient. I'd much rather be on the "controlling" end. As nurses and doctors, we are, by nature, controlling. We want to control your environment and for your best interest, we tell you when you can get up, when you can get to bed, and when you can pee. It's a pretty messed up system and after hearing personal stories from friends on their experiences, it's actually changed the way I practice nursing. I listen more. I give more independence. ANYWAY. Going through my doctor's website today, I saw him say something on his blog that he thought that "natural birth" was a baby coming out of a woman's body be that by surgery or through a vaginal canal. And he's right. At the end of the day, you experience God's miracle of life. Do I think that straight up elective c-sections are right? Not really. I think when that happens, it's the woman being scared, not knowing what to expect. (I mean truly elective, not for a medical reason.) Do I think that a woman should be shoved into a class of "failure to wait" by doctors and have a c-section? No. I think that women should be given every opportunity to have a vaginal delivery. But am I going to tell someone that they did it wrong? No. Am I going to tell someone that their baby is somehow diffferent because they were born by c-section? Absolutely not. So why all the blogs demonizing this process? Let's encourage one another. Let's help educate one another. And by God, if He gave us a way to take out our babies, then we can trust that. These thoughts have given me a lot of peace today because for our next baby (no, I'm not pregnant) I'd like a similar experience I had with Emma and I'm so scared to have things go differently. But, I just have to trust that He has it all worked out.
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I don't think Mama Birth tries to demoralize c sections, rather she is trying to educate women that they have options when it comes to giving birth. Not all women know how or where to find the education they need/want when it comes to giving birth. I didn't deal with a medical doctor (except when my dr tried to tell me I was high risk because of thyroid issues), so I don't know what is being said in a dr office. But from hearing stories of my friends and their experiences, they aren't being as educated. They don't know they have rights and can have a birth experience that they want. A lot of women are scared about having vaginal births because of the unknown. I was terrified! Even while in labor, I was scared and expressed my fear to my midwife and husband. Both of them reassured me I would be ok and there was nothing to be scared of. I feel that if women were more educated in the birth and pregnancy process, then they might not be as scared and more willing to try a birth without so much intervention. Is it scary? Heck yeah! Is it worth it to have a birth with little complications? Heck yeah! Is it for everyone though? No, probably not. I don't feel that Mama Birth is out to condemn anyone, rather to educate people on other options. She's not a medical doctor, but I think she has her heart in the right place by trying to help women realize that their doctors are not God and what they say is not Gospel. I've been reading www.myobsaidwhat.com and it's been very interesting. Not just what drs say, but nurses, midwives, doulas, etc. That right there tells me that women are being given wrong information and being told that their bodies are not working correctly. Or that the doctor has no intent of letting the woman birth the way she wants. Not all doctors of course. I'd love to go from OB to OB while pregnant and see who says what. It would be fun to do something like that. Anyway, off topic. I don't always agree with everything that Mama Birth says, but I do find her blogs to be very educational and very informative.
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